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Thursday, May 12, 2011

"The one about learning to accept fate..."

Each of us deals with loss in prudence of our own accord. No two people go through the same experience; moving on from the passing of anyone dear in their lives is an individual descend. It is therefore deemed improbable that one could offer solace to another when it comes to grieving; as we possess not the sentience of going through the endeavor ourselves.

However, we try our best to be there for the ones we love; we offer warm wishes, dear hugs and moral support. We provide whatever nudge necessary to accompany them on their journey to acceptance. My parents say that it is unfair to impose acceptance onto those in grief, because we all react very differently to a situation.

Wise men say that time heals any wound, but their scars remains just.

A few months ago my dearest Fifah shared with me a very inspiring article off on dealing with grief and worldly attachments. The article describes how we reason with certain aspects in life we sometimes can't fathom its prudence; but falls within the grand plan of God.

Indeed, we are all very humble creatures - unwise and flawed. That's why we always need to look up to Him for forgiveness and wisdom. To Him we came, and to him we shall return.

I'm sharing the link to the article said - so that we could all benefit from its discourse.

By Yasmin Mogahed.

SubhanAllah, this article has given me much insight as to our recent loss, and hopefully shall help any of you who are seeking such insights as well.



Nor Fadzlina Nawi said...

Loved this part :-)

To attain that state, don’t let your source of fulfillment be anything other than your relationship with God. Don’t let your definition of success, failure, or self-worth be anything other than your position with Him (Qur’an, 49:13). And if you do this, you become unbreakable, because your handhold is unbreakable. You become unconquerable, because your supporter can never be conquered. And you will never become empty, because your source of fulfillment is unending and never diminishes.

Lady Krystal said...

Love this:

Indeed, we are all very humble creatures - unwise and flawed. That's why we always need to look up to Him for forgiveness and wisdom. To Him we came, and to him we shall return.

PakTam said...

That's a very good writing - beautifully put. We need constant reminders such as this. Not that we do not know of it but we need to be reminded of it - every now and then. Take care Jep.

Wan Nadiah said...


May Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (swt) have mercy on him and your family. Ameen.

Another moving piece from Suhaib Webb's page:

We buried a man today. And here I am now on my way home in the caravan of the living. For now.

For now, you and I are in the caravan of the living. But not because we’re headed for a separate land. Not because they’re going and we are not. Only because our caravan lagged behind. Right now we’re driving back to our homes, our beds, our TVs, our stereos, our jobs, our exams, our friends, our Facebook, and Gchat. Right now we’re driving back to our distractions, our idols, our deceptive illusions. But that’s just it. I’m not driving back to my home, my bed, my TV and my stereo. I’m not returning to my job, my exams, my friends, my Facebook and Gchat. I’m not on my way back to my distractions, illusions and idols. I’m driving back to where I began. I’m driving now to the very same place he went to. I’m on my way to the same place. I just don’t know how long my drive will take.

I’m driving back to where I began: with God. Because God is Al-Awal (the Beginning) and God is Al-Akhir (the End).

My body is taking me there, but it’s only a vehicle. When I get there, it will stay behind. As he did today. My body came from the ground and it will go back to the ground, as it came. It was only a shell, a container for my soul. A companion for a while. But I’ll leave it here when I arrive. Arrive—not depart. Because that’s my home. Not this. That’s why when Allah (swt) is calling the back the righteous soul, He says, ‘irjiee’: return (Qur’an, 89:28).

The beautiful, noble soul that we buried didn’t depart from life today. He just entered a higher—and God willing—better level of it. He only arrived home. But the body is made of the material world and so he had to leave it here. The body is of the lower world. The world where we need to eat and sleep and bleed and cry. And die. But the soul is of the higher world. The soul has only one need: to be with God.

And so while the body cries and bleeds and feels pain from the material world, the soul is untouched by these things. There is only one thing that can cut or stab or hurt the soul. There is only one thing that can kill it: depriving it of its only need: to be close to its Originator. To be near God. And so we should not weep for the arriving soul—It isn’t dead. We should weep instead for the one whose body is alive, but whose soul is dead because of its alienation from that which gives it life: God.

And so the believing soul races home, even while in this life.

O Lord, make my soul a sanctuary, a fortress within. That no one and nothing can disturb. A place of calm, silence, serenity, untouched by the outside world. The soul that Allah (swt) calls al-nafs al mutmaina (the reassured soul) (Qur’an 89:27). The soul that Allah (swt) calls back saying:

“(To the righteous soul will be said:) ‘O (thou) soul, in (complete) rest and satisfaction! Come back thou to thy Lord – well pleased (thyself), and well-pleasing unto Him! Enter thou, then, among My devotees! Yea, enter thou My Heaven!’” (Qur’an, 89:27-30)