"The one about (preparing on) getting married..."

I apologize very much for my recent hiatus.

Truth is, getting married is no laughing matter guys.

Well, it was before - but that was directed AT people, not TO yourself. Having been through it (and still am) I've come to realize that it's now probably a more feasible option to elope, than to actually get properly married. Probably Awie really did have a point doing so in the past. Pun intended, of course.

For those wondering where on earth I am at the moment - rest assured that I'm back in KK for another round of marital preps. I've recently expressed concern over the ambiguous and not to mention, at times also contradictory application procedures to an Imam I met last week. My notion was replied by a unprecedented;

"Ingat senang ke nak kawen..?".

Which is, on its own another contradictory statement. Forgive my laughable knowledge of the religion, but I was always educated under the notion that Islam as a way of life - is both flexible and simple. As a matter of fact, it is one of very few religions on earth that retains these characteristics, while in the same time could remain concisely strict. The teachings are clear, but it also leaves room for improvisation to current conditions and time line. And I was led to believe that getting married involves very little red tape; it revolves around the ijab and qabul side of the nikah, with the parties consisting a wali, three witnesses and the groom. I may be wrong but do allow me the benefit of the doubt.

The point I am trying to make is this - it is (or preferably was) easy to get married. I wonder whether it was this hard to get married a decade, or probably a century ago?

Anyways, it's just my 2-cents worth. By hook or by crook, it does have to be regulated at some stage but how I'd wish regulations can be made more flexible. Alas, this is part of the experience so I guess it'll justify any means of gratification in the future.

If only there was a copy of "Kahwin - For Dummies" available somewhere.

-JeP

P.S : Many more doa's for chemoboy who's battling his last high dose chemotherapy at the moment. The journey may seem bleak but there's always that light at the end of the tunnel. We all continuously pray for your fast recovery and best being.