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Tuesday, November 10, 2009

"The one about (preparing on) getting married..."

I apologize very much for my recent hiatus.

Truth is, getting married is no laughing matter guys.

Well, it was before - but that was directed AT people, not TO yourself. Having been through it (and still am) I've come to realize that it's now probably a more feasible option to elope, than to actually get properly married. Probably Awie really did have a point doing so in the past. Pun intended, of course.

For those wondering where on earth I am at the moment - rest assured that I'm back in KK for another round of marital preps. I've recently expressed concern over the ambiguous and not to mention, at times also contradictory application procedures to an Imam I met last week. My notion was replied by a unprecedented;

"Ingat senang ke nak kawen..?".

Which is, on its own another contradictory statement. Forgive my laughable knowledge of the religion, but I was always educated under the notion that Islam as a way of life - is both flexible and simple. As a matter of fact, it is one of very few religions on earth that retains these characteristics, while in the same time could remain concisely strict. The teachings are clear, but it also leaves room for improvisation to current conditions and time line. And I was led to believe that getting married involves very little red tape; it revolves around the ijab and qabul side of the nikah, with the parties consisting a wali, three witnesses and the groom. I may be wrong but do allow me the benefit of the doubt.

The point I am trying to make is this - it is (or preferably was) easy to get married. I wonder whether it was this hard to get married a decade, or probably a century ago?

Anyways, it's just my 2-cents worth. By hook or by crook, it does have to be regulated at some stage but how I'd wish regulations can be made more flexible. Alas, this is part of the experience so I guess it'll justify any means of gratification in the future.

If only there was a copy of "Kahwin - For Dummies" available somewhere.


P.S : Many more doa's for chemoboy who's battling his last high dose chemotherapy at the moment. The journey may seem bleak but there's always that light at the end of the tunnel. We all continuously pray for your fast recovery and best being.


Wa aka Wawek aka Siti ;) said...

Oh how we (me & fiance)really wish we could elope! Huhuhu.. All the best for your wedd preps Jep. Exciting! ;)

JeP said...

Hahaha I'd said the same thing! :D

Thanks for the wish Wa. The preps are certainly exciting, but more on the lines of anxiousness. Hehehehe, that said - hope urs would go far smoother than mine!

Anonymous said...


I agree it's not easy to get married, but what we also don't need red tapes, bureucracy n peraturan lapok!

Jabatan Agama Islam all over need to be more customer friendly, if you ask me.

Good luck on the wedding preps...
I'm also struggling with preparations for the wedding reception. I've sub-contracted to Mak Teh, but I need to look for a second sub-con for a few other things!...good luck to us all..mama

Nor Fadzlina Nawi said...

Salam Jep,

You'd think a guy's side is 'pening' enough..wait till you hear the bride side's preparation..another set of 'pening'.

And the worst get so tired doing all the preparations, sometimes you lose the chance to actually enjoy the wedding. I hope that won't be the case for you.

(Anyway...since I'm in the family law business currently, and I know the red tape for getting married is bad, but it's not that bad compared to the sufferrings of those single mothers trying to make some sense of what rights they have left from their 'leftover marriage').

So no worries, at least you're heading towards a happy beginning :-P.

All the best, Jep. Wish we could all attend it.